A Message From An Abuse Survivor

You may feel that you are alone in your fight, but you aren't. Survivors such as myself and others may not be there to physically hold you and tell you to your face that you are a beautiful human being, but know that we are all there with you, sending you healing prayers for growth and success for your healthy future.

It isn't easy to get enough strength to override the brainwashing that has been done to you. It is also, sometimes, very dangerous to leave these jerks that feel that they own you. But, it's more dangerous to stay with them and believe me when I say that I totally understand the things that have been said to you that make you stay.

You must make a move, though, and reach out to those who CAN help you and even hide you if necessary. Truth will win in the long run - I know, my run has been abnormally long. We all together have value - GREAT VALUE - to many others out there. Know that you DO have value and you most definitely DO matter.

Are You Abused?

If you feel there may be "something wrong" in your relationship but can't seem to pinpoint the cause (or think it's you), then it is highly likely that verbal abuse and the emotional and mental abuse that goes along with it is the root of the problem.

Abuse is more than physical violence. Verbal abuse can be obscure or obvious, but it is involved in every abusive relationship. Verbal abuse is real - it's more than name calling, more than yelling. Verbal abuse is insidious and tricky, but very real.

Much of the time, verbal abuse sufferers don't hear the abuse as abuse because it starts out so innocently and small. Early on, it is easy to forgive and pass it off as someone's bad day, bad mood, or bad attitude. Often, there is no abuse whatsoever at the beginning of the relationship.

It's not until the abuser is sure that you are going to stay that the nasty stuff comes out.

Are You Abused? Take A Quiz

Intro to My Abusive Marriage

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Why share journal entries?

Together, I hope we will move into healthier ways of thinking, feeling, being and living. Here are the journals:

My Story of Abuse Your Stories of Abuse

My Blog with Your Comments

When I figured out that abuse played a key role in my marriage, I started looking through my old journal entries for evidence of it. I didn't want to believe I was being abused! But the abuse was there, constantly, for 17+ years.

I became angrier thinking that there were probably many more abuse sufferers who did not recognize the abuse in their relationships. I couldn't be the only one, right?

I thought that by sharing my journals, those silent sufferers would validate their own experience and realize that we are not "the crazy ones"!

What is an Abusive Marriage?

"My Verbally Abusive Marriage...and what i'm doing in it" blog will illustrate it for you.

Where can I go for help?