Are You Abused?
If you feel there may be "something wrong" in your relationship but can't seem to pinpoint the cause (or think it's you), then it is highly likely that verbal abuse and the emotional and mental abuse that goes along with it is the root of the problem.
Abuse is more than physical violence. Verbal abuse can be obscure or obvious, but it is involved in every abusive relationship. Verbal abuse is real - it's more than name calling, more than yelling. Verbal abuse is insidious and tricky, but very real.
Much of the time, verbal abuse sufferers don't hear the abuse as abuse because it starts out so innocently and small. Early on, it is easy to forgive and pass it off as someone's bad day, bad mood, or bad attitude. Often, there is no abuse whatsoever at the beginning of the relationship.
It's not until the abuser is sure that you are going to stay that the nasty stuff comes out.
Why share journal entries?
Together, I hope we will move into healthier ways of thinking, feeling, being and living. Here are the journals:
My Journal Entries Your Journal Entries My Blog with Your Comments
When I figured out that abuse played a key role in my marriage, I started looking through my old journal entries for evidence of it. I didn't want to believe I was being abused! But the abuse was there, constantly, for 17+ years.
I became angrier thinking that there were probably many more abuse sufferers who did not recognize the abuse in their relationships. I couldn't be the only one, right?
I thought that by sharing my journals, those silent sufferers would validate their own experience and realize that we are not "the crazy ones"!
What is an Abusive Marriage?
"My Verbally Abusive Marriage...and what i'm doing in it" blog will illustrate it for you.
Intro to My Abusive Marriage
Usually, a video of me describing my experience is in this space. Due to the
divorce proceedings, I've decided to remove it.
View YouTube "Abuse Collection"
Where can I go for help?
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